I spent most of my life being treated as Black by everyone except Black people, my own family aside. I took the profiling and the mistreatment, then turned to my own people and heard the same thing. I spent middle school fighting over the colour of my skin. Fighting my own.
Most light-skinned people I know grew up embarrassed of their skin because of how other people made them feel. I chose a different route. If the home we were born into would not hold us, we would build our own, and be free in it.
So I always say it the same way.